I think I’ve just figured out why some straight/het guys are ranty homophobes.
They know how they look at women and girls — both teen-aged and prepubescent — as objects, things, for their personal pleasure. But they don’t want men looking at them the same way — through the lens of this thing called ‘male privilege‘ that often strips away the personal sovereignty and simple human dignity of anyone hapless enough to be caught in the cross-hairs of their carnal urges.
“Male Torso, No.2” — © Ryl Mandus
If they’re the ones in those cross-hairs there’s the horrifying chance they may not have the physical upper-hand this time, regarding upper body strength and negative male aggression. The more predatory a het guy is the greater the likelihood he’s afraid of being seen as prey — especially if he’s a bully. Bullies are notorious cowards when push comes to shove.
It could be an instinctive fear of Karmic comeuppance.
In the presence of gay men, they may worry they are now fair game and it’s always open season. Based on their own conduct towards women of any persuasion, they may worry that even if they say “no!” that it’ll be ignored because the ones doing the pursuing are, y’know, men. And we’ve all known dipwads who refuse to respect the rights of other human beings when those basic rights stand between them and what they think they want at any given moment.
It’s called externalization, when someone believes everyone else is guilty of doing the same stuff they deny doing at all.
It’s never fun when a deeply buried guilty conscience reaches up and bitch-slaps the orbitofrontal cortex — a pity when all anyone does with this wake-up call and chance to evolve into a truly superior human being is to, once again, externalize and then lash out.
In my attempts to understand why people do the things they do, I end up doing a lot of people-watching. It’s through my own observations that the above theory was borne — and please remember that word, theory, before you get your man-panties in a twist.
Here’s what I find so ironic about homophobia: because the gay men of my personal acquaintance have higher standards of male attractiveness than most straight women I know, the straight men I’ve heard spew the most vicious homophobic rhetoric wouldn’t rate a second glance.
Like I said, it’s all theory.